But that baby is hanging in for more ice cream and cookies.
The other day, his wife had sent a group message to all of her friends.
Mommas, looking for advice on the whole delivery thing and what to expect afterwards…NOT looking for any horror stories or ANY gross details. I’m well aware of what to expect and have fully blocked it from my mind and refuse to listen to any dirty details….
What I’m looking for is advice on the best thing you did while in the hospital and the days following. Or even what your partner did. Only happy positive comments please.
I get it.
No new mother wants to hear about the bad parts of labour or the days following.
But what about the “P” word?
I immediately wanted to tell her everything about postpartum depression because I turned a blind eye whenever I came across something related to it. I was a happy pregnant Mom, had a wonderful husband, and a great job.
I thought that it would never, EVER happen to me.
But it did.
And I sure as hell had wished that someone, anyone would have told me about postpartum depression no matter how much I would have hated to hear it.
I didn’t answer her message for a while. I followed the thread. Everyone said things like bring cute outfits for the baby, take lots of pictures because they grow so fast, snuggle with them, and other positive things just like she had asked for.
I started to write and stopped and deleted my responses over and over.
And then I just went for it.
I told her that I had postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety and I gave her a smidge of information that wouldn’t scare her to death.
Kim, sweets, I had no idea. I’m so incredibly sorry that you had gone through that, but I assure you I’m totally fine. We are fine. Don’t worry about us. Really we are fine. This is going to be a wonderful experience. We can’t wait.
Did it really click?
I don’t know.
Actually, I don’t really think so.
I didn’t know what else to say beyond that.
I simply responded
I bet that you are excited. We are really excited for you and we hope that you have an amazing experience. Know that I’m always here 😉
I write a blog that chronicles my entire postpartum experience. I share all the good, the bad, and the really bad, but here I had an opportunity to really educate a new pregnant mom.
But I kept thinking, “She’s so happy.”
And then I remembered how badly that I wished that someone had told me.
She’s still pregnant as of today.
And I still haven’t given her any more information.
I am honestly having a hard time with this.
Do you talk to your pregnant friends about postpartum depression? How do you approach the topic? If they brush you off, do you still pursue the issue?
~ Kimberly Morand, All Work & No Play Makes Mommy Go Something Something
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