CBS News did a story last night on postpartum disorders, featuring Joyce Venis and Sonia Murdock, among others. Here is a link to their online story: CBS News | Signs Of Postpartum Depression | July 29, 2004?09:21:39.
This story just came out today in the Associated Press – thanks to my Aunt Jan for sending it to me. For those women going through a post partum disorder right now, please don’t be afraid. I thought about editing this story so it wouldn’t scare you, but it’s the truth and all of us need to be truthful with each other to help get rid of the shame that goes along with this illness. If you need to reach out for help, email me and I and the women across the country who have been through this will do WHATEVER we need to to help you.
Award-winning teacher kills baby, self
Wednesday, July 28, 2004
ST. CLAIR SHORES, Michigan (AP) — A woman who was honored this spring as teacher of the year killed her 5-week-old daughter and then herself after battling the type of depression that comes with childbirth, officials said.
Daniel Moffitt found the body of his 37-year-old wife, Mary Ellen Moffitt, on the couple’s bed Monday. Police say she killed herself, apparently by putting a plastic bag over her head. The baby, Caroline, was found on the couch, tightly wrapped in a blanket and also dead of asphyxiation.
“It’s horrific,” police detective Thomas Hannon said. “What else can you say?”
Moffitt had been undergoing treatment for postpartum depression, police said. Police were waiting for toxicology reports from autopsies conducted Tuesday.
In May, the East Detroit School District named her teacher of the year. She taught first grade at Crescentwood Elementary in Eastpointe.
“She told me how happy she was about having her first baby,” school board member Corrinne Harper said. “She said she was looking forward to having the baby — she didn’t even want to know what sex it was because she wanted it to be a surprise.”
Dara Knill, president of the East Detroit teachers union, recalled Moffitt as “a very upbeat person … just the kind of gal you could always approach.”
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I am always so happy when I hear from professionals who are dedicated to more than simply their medical or psychiatric practice, but to a cause greater than themselves. I think William Meyer is one of those people. Meyer is a clinical social worker and an associate clinical professor in the Departments of Psychiatry and the Department of Ob/Gyn at the Duke University Medical Center. He shared with me a column he has written for new mothers, and I wanted you to see it.
The Many Faces of Postpartum Depression
by William S. Meyer, MSW, BCD
For over fourteen years I have co-led the Duke Postpartum Depression Support Group and, as someone who has met hundreds of struggling new mothers, I have come to understand a few things about this condition.
How does one recognize the woman with postpartum depression? I can tell you because at one time or another she has participated in our support group. She is the young unsupported mother who had an unwanted pregnancy. She is the middle-aged mother whose own mother is deceased or unavailable. She is the mother in her 40’s who feels awkward and out-of-step with the young mothers in the neighborhood play group. She is the mother who was sick throughout her pregnancy, or the one who went through the labor and delivery from hell (an experience from which she never had the time or opportunity to physically and psychologically heal).
She is the mother in a strained relationship with the baby’s father, or she is dealing with the added stress of an unconventional life style. She is the mother with a career who always wanted to be a mother but now, at home, misses the challenges and adult stimulation of her former employment. She is the working mother who out of necessity had to return too soon to work and had to leave her baby in less-than-optimal child-care. She is the relocated mother who just moved to the area due to her partner’s job transfer and finds herself alone in an unfamiliar city. She is the anxious mother of a hard-to-soothe baby. She is the perfectionist mother who has always held herself to impossibly high standards and now as a new mother feels she is a failure. She is the mother who was used to having a fair amount of control over her life until she had an unexpected c-section or a baby with special needs. She is the giving mother whose baby has colic, won’t sleep, won’t take the breast, and won’t be consoled. She is hard on herself, sleep-deprived, and even food-deprived.
Sometimes she resents her baby and sometimes she even has secret worries or frightening images that she or her baby could get in harm’s way. She is embarrassed for feeling as she does. She thinks that other mothers feel only warm and positive feelings toward their babies, and she is frightened that she will never recover and feel like her old self again. Her house is a mess, the thank-you cards have not been written, and everyone around her chortles, “Don’t you just love being a mother?”
We have learned so much from the hundreds of women who have attended our group meetings because they have been so candid and such generous teachers. They have taught us that just a little support from us and from those around them can go such a long, long way. In our group we support them first by encouraging them to talk. They feel relieved to hear that other mothers have shared similar experiences. We reassure them that even though they get frustrated with their babies, it doesn’t mean they don’t also love them, yet it can be hard to feel love when one is drained but dealing with a demanding infant. We remind them how hard it can be to give to their babies in the earliest weeks and months, when their babies don’t yet have the capacity for a real bonding and can’t give them very much in return.
We tell them it will get better, because it will. We tell them that regardless of whether they stay at home or work, whether they breast-feed or bottle-feed, whether the baby sleeps with them or alone, they can still be terrific mothers and have happy and thriving babies. Finally, we tell them the most important thing: that they will find it easier to give to their babies if their needs are taken care of first. We encourage them to be assertive and reach out and get assistance from all who can offer it.
Parenting an infant is unusually difficult and demanding. No fewer than 10-15% of new mothers experience significant postpartum anxiety and depression. Consider then just how many women are so affected! If we wish to give this condition the currency and visibility it deserves, and I believe we must, we must do so by emphasizing its high prevalence. Postpartum depression is real, it is common, and it is treatable. Let us all strive to reach out to new mothers in need so that they may be provided with good health care, accurate information, adequate resources and support for as long as it may be necessary.
For information about the Duke Postpartum Support Group, Meyer can be reached at Box 3812 DUMC, Durham, NC 27710, or by e-mail at